Unique Children

by Guest Blogger Andriana Mantas, Collaborative Minds

As with any child, a child with special needs brings joy and challenges into each and every family situation. Whether this is your first, second or third child, know that each and every one of them is unique. The fact that we are all different, each of us with individual personalities and learning styles impacts our interactions -as a parent, how you interact with each of your children is highly dependant to a particular child and his/her needs. As you bond with your child and learn from one another, you will laugh, cry and play together- these foundational moments will help you better understand your child's needs and will make the relationship stronger between you and your family.

Upon learning that your child has special needs, you may experience of range of emotions, many of which are the result of venturing into the unknown. Allow yourself to feel the emotions that come forth. Parents commonly feel happiness, sorrow, relief, doubt, compassion, shame and acceptance. Do your best to look at the silver lining and embrace a sense of humour.

Treat your child like everyone else; make accommodations as necessary and try to remain balanced in your approach. Providing too much coddling can lead to unwanted behaviours. Ensure that your expectations are geared to developing your child's potential. Always celebrate every accomplishment, make a big deal out of every achievement.

In caring for your child, it is also imperative to take care of yourself, beginning with your weekly routine. Schedule time off for yourself as well as time with your spouse and do this without guilt or regret. Recruit help; involve grandparents, friends and neighbours. It's important to educate yourself and always remember that each child develops on an individual basis, so refrain from generalizing the information you obtain to your situation. The internet is a valuable source of information, but it can also be a tricky device overwhelming you with a vast amount of information that is very general. Take one day at time, as Anne Lammott said "You don't have to see where you're going, you don't have to see your destination or everything you will pass along the day. You just have to see two or three feet in front of you."

By accessing services, early intervention will enhance your child's development, provide assistance and support to your family and ultimately having your child participate in the community and schools just like everyone else. In the words of Marsha Forest - "There is only one criterion for inclusion. Breathing, life itself"

For more information, please contact Andriana Mantas of Collaborative Minds at 416-803-5321 or collaborativeminds@sympatico.ca Andriana is a writes the column "Pass Me An Issue" in the monthly Ginger Mail Newsletter. To receive Ginger Mail email info@gingerbreadlane.ca with your request.